1. Have you ever pulled your shift **** out of the ...shift pole? (i was in 3rd going to 4th and the shift **** like came out...)

nope never had that happen... seems very solid to me as i have tried to pull it off.

2. What RPM do you shift at, normal driving. I like to do 2-3 thousand.

right around there as well.

3. Does anyone shift from 1st-2nd then to 4th then to 6th? To save gas.

had a friend that swore this saved him gas, i made fun of him plenty for it as he would bog the engine every time he did this into a low rpm that was far from efficient... week later he started driving normal cause of my badgering and his gas mileage went up quite a bit...
you have enough gears to keep the car around the 2k range where it is most efficient for gas mileage, just make your shifts quick and precise...