I don't think you are looking at the big picture here. Cars don't last forever so how would you expect the paint to?? If you truly don't want your clearcoat to be removed don't drive your car, keep it covered up in a garage and you'll never have to wax it again.

Have you seen a car that hasn't been waxed regularly? They look like $hit. Compare a car that is waxed regularly to one that hasn't. It'll stand out like a sore thumb.

I don't have swirl marks on my black car and I wax mine regularly. It is all on how you take care of your washing mits, towels and anything else that touches your paint.