I agree with it being a cop out. People don't do what they don't want to. If you loved her as much as you say you wouldn't of done it and you wouldn't of put yourself in a situation where stuff could of happend. Tell the truth maybe she will forgive you but to be honest people never really forgive something like that and it will always rear its ugly head. Most likely its over because very few people can forgive that much. Many say they can but few do. Sorry so grim but I am straight shooter and sugar coat nothing.
~Juice