My wife always tells the truth. Period. And I'm the same which is a good recipe for a life long marriage. In the end it's a curbed wheel and while it pisses you off, it's replaceable. A good marriage isn't. My wife hit a column with a 2 week old car once. Oh man.....crap, but it's a car. I am fully aware that an xfire is not just a car, but the wheel is just a wheel. My wife has the keys but she won't drive mine unless it's the only option available. I doubt she'll touch the xfire. If she did total it I would thank god that she was ok and go looking for that Ferrari! I think lying about what happened is more serious than what happened, it tells me she's afraid to tell the truth, and who isn't, but for trust it's a must. Good luck, don't push too hard, fix the wheel, and buy her a yugo for daily transportation.