Hi J-Fire, man, been there too. Any chance of mediation to keep the freakin' lawyers out of it? That was the best thing my wife of 20 years and I ever did, except make some good kids, but really, after a year you'll be alot better. Give yourself time to heal, dating others is not a really good idea until after the first year because you really can't be present for them, nor for yourself, so take the time and develop a friendship for female companionship. I was split 8 years ago, made a best friend and married her 5 years later. BTW, stand your ground and don't let the feelings of just getting this out of the way make you give up too much financially-it's easy to happen. PM me if you want to chat. Best of luck to you! You'll be fine. Actually, you already are, you'll just feel that way more in time! Mark