hey MI, I have been married for a while and I "get it". But the xfire is not "ours". It's mine, mine mine! If she is nice I will let her drive it once in a while. If she would just understand how to shift I would let her drive it more. But she just doesn't undrstand how gearing works. The other day in her 5-speed focus she pulled up to a light with the car in 1st and the clutch in. Stopped the car, put it in second and then took off with the car chunking all the way. she pulled into a gas station up to the pumps in third, slowed down to 15 and shifted into 4th, lurch lurch. She looks better as eye candy in the passenger seat than she does in a bucking stick shift, with me in the passenger seat with a winching pained expression on my face. I love her to death, but......