okay. funniest thing. found a preowned amp and put it in. no difference. checked all the fuses- not the problem. was getting ready to order some mercedes stereo keys to pull the head unit and see if there were any inline fuses behind the dash- but then............
i think my deceased wife is haunting my car. lol i was in the drive through at mcdonalds and the right speakers popped and then about 5 seconds of static. i said out loud- i hear you babe- just please quit f-ing with my car and fix it cuz ya know i cant afford to take it to the dealer.
exactly one minute later the speakers turned on and havent had a problem since. its been 3 weeks.

who knows what it was but its working fine now

now its the driver side window that is occasionally not rolling down- at least shes leavin my tunes alone lol