Re: relay control module joints look ok...
When looking at solder on a circuit board, the other thing that can trick you into thinking things are OKAY, is a COLD SOLDERED JOINT.
A cold joint will manifest itself as being a dull grey in color, versus a nice shiney silver tone.
Easily fixed with a hot iron and dab of new solder.
(This affliction will also haunt poorly conditioned males who have lost their sex drive...LOL...)...