Sorry to hear about your troubles.

Where are you located?

As Onehundred80 suggested look into a repair. I know that you can get a refurbished TCU but I am not sure about the ECU.

The PITA is that the ECU is VIN coded so you just can't go grab an ECU and drop it in (as you suspected). Reach out to Eurocharged and see if they can do the VIN coding.