She said that I have been checked out for years and that's her reason. Little does she realize how much work goes into buying a $350k house. So we're here and moved in and now she wants out but to separate first. Just trying to put the logic together. I guess there's a chance. Spartions do work. On the bright side I think I can do better and I'm from The Chicago area where the ladies are plentiful. I need to keep this car for the rebound for sure, but I'll face a 3 hour drive once a month now. Wife wants to stay in STL. I love my XF but that's just extreme in a small car with a 3 year old so I'll likely to keep both cars.

Thanks for your kind words and prayers. I think we have two different kinds of people between her and I. So let her take her fake ***** and cause problems with another guy. Sad thing is my daughter. She's three and shouldn't have to see all this. Any advice on custody in IL? Is child support really 20% of gross?

This is soooooo incredibly tough. Sometimes my gut drops a mile. John, chin up for sure, thanks. I need to hear all the strong advice. I can ake it through this. It's a phase of life that God must feel I deserve or need. Thanks to good friends and you guys, I sense a light turning on.