Checked out, as not involved in her life? Going thru the motions so to speak? You got to love women. I was divorced once early on. No kids, so split everything in half and moved on. It was emotionally hard, but we speak to each other 30 yrs later, so we both knew it wasn't working. I have been married the 2nd time for 30 yrs as mentioned. I can't say we haven't had our ups and downs. I was separated once. Moved out for awhile. Had 3 young kids, so we saw each other at least 3 days a week. We were moving toward a divorce. Selling things, paying off bills. One day, I had the kids for the weekend, well, I had the kids a lot, lol.... I just asked her if she wanted to go with us to get pizza. She did. So, with 6 months separated under our belt, and the anger, and frustration over with, we could finally talk. I sought out a professional from our church to council us. And that is what I am telling you. If there is still hope, let things calm a bit, then get an outsider to help mend the wounds. If there isn't love there, then move on. Especially since your child is young as mine were. They don't even remember me being outside of the home. Good luck as I know several will be praying for you. OH, btw, I have seen many a nasty divorce, so use your head kid...don't play into that.