Those are the ugliest wheels I have ever seen!! OMG
(just kidding)
I think your wheel guy is being a little over dramtic about the wheels being wrong for the car and about the suspension bolt.... several of us that have after market wheels/tires have "adjusted" that bolt so it can't touch the tire and cause damage. But he is the one that is guarantying his work and product. You will be safe and happy and that is what matters.