so its beginning to seem as if the rear assembly is best... the interesting part is it looks to be as if the rods are designed to bend in the event of a crash to prevent the damage of any other parts. but i dont want to risk anything at this point. ill pay 600 to make sure its done right i suppose. i thought the tires were fine. this is what discount tire had told me very recently that they were good for at least another few thousand miles before i should consider looking into replacing them . we do think it was a bad shock since one side was a bit more rigid than the other not as bad as now, but it seemed to be, but i was also told it was nothing to worry about immediately, i ordered kyb shocks , hopefully these should be pretty good. i was considering doing these

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but i am not sure on fitment or if my mounting points are bent , suspension is such a finicky thing there's no reason to skimp on it i suppose.