i am on the autostick 90% of the time the wheels are rolling... i am not clear on what you are describing ... like overriding the choice you made?

when i 1st had the XF, i did notice that when i went from 3 down to 2 and into 1 (all indicated on the dash) ...i was still in 2 when the dash indicated 1. then when everything was in synch with all of the xf's communications systems (speed/rpm etc) it geared itself down into one...

however now my tranny responds to my choices 95% of the time... i'm happy.
our trannies also memorizes the type of driving we do and responds accordingly...

hope this helped.