Update: started the car today and NO the fuel pump relay does not energize. My cardboard wedge must have stuck the relay armature on. Today I used a jumper to keep the engine going. Took the car for short trip to bring it up to operating temp and the transmission shifted up and down just fine.
I believe the following modules to be good: Transmission control, shift leaver, Skreem (key fob lock and unlock work) pulse module, and RCM.
Pulled all connectors from PCM and reseated to be sure, and no improvement.
Rechecked all fuses under the hood and all good.
Check engine light came on, Po161, O2 sensor2/2 heater circuit.
rechecked RCM fuse 2 and it is good.
Tried resetting the code but it will not erase.
Have run out of time for today.