I pulled the RCM as suggested.
what I found was pitted points on the blower relay. But the fuel pump relay looked brand new. After dressing the points I cleaned the area down in there as best as I could then flipped the board over to check the common 3 pin problem. Those 3 soldier joints look very good. No discoloration, no loose pins on the 3 or any of the soldier connections. That board looked brand new all except for the blower points. All other relays are free to move also and not stuck.

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After:


another before:

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result: crank over n over and no starting.. not even a pop.

maybe next suggestion I can try myself?

thank you!!