Originally Posted by jsisabella
Wonderdallas:
All I can say that I understand how you must feel. Had it happen to me too.
My advice, and I wish I had been given this at the start of my divorce:
Kick the bum out. Change the locks on the house today. Tomorrow, close the bank accounts and sell everything BUT the Crossfire and liquidate to cash. Bury the cash. Then get the meanest dirtiest divorce lawyer you can find.
Good advice, but unfortunately I can't get a "real" divorce because I could never get a "real" marriage. So I can't lock him out. My only option is to buy out his interest in the house or risk losing my equity in a long drawn out process of selling. Either way I'm sorta screwed financially because I'll be upside-down in either car I sell. Every option feels like a punishment when I wasn't the one who messed it all up.
My friends and I have a motto we say in jest....a "whaddya gonna do"... that helps us explain the unexplainable....it's " Ah ****.... Right?" :wink:
Whatever, I'm lucky in so many ways....and I think I'll keep the Crossfire. I deserve to make atleast my commute a happy time.
Thanks all for the well wishes.
Dallas