i've made my peace with the cup-holder and, as long as i play by its rules and only ask it to hold certain containers, it performs fine. i've sorta gotten to where i like it. it does get in the way of the shifter so i don't usually cowboy the trans if i'm sippin coffee or whatever.
like the window-switches, the cruise lever and the ac system, you have to come to terms with the car on it's terms...and like it. it sure isn't marching to anyone elses drummer...ergonomics-wise.
one cup that really does not work is the chrysler travel tumbler that they sell.
dan