Hi Hairydalek , Yea your on the right lines , wash & dry ,claybar ,Polish . thats what i do , after you have gone over with the claybar /detail spray (you have to keep the clay bar wet & the painted surface wet ) , the surface feels like after you have polished very smooth & clean ,you do not put any weight on the claybar while you are going over the paint work , you need to keep the clay warm & clean , if you drop the clay bar on the floor IT GOES IN THE BIN & NOT BACK ON THE CAR . it picks up dirt very well , I will bring whats left of my claybar this weekend so you can have a look . follow the links below

http://www.cleanyourcar.co.uk/
http://paintcare-n-detailing.com/

hope these answer any questions , I will take this time to said sorry to your partner as from this time onwards you could be spending more & more time with your Xfire & less time with them

Cheers

Andy