Originally Posted by mdaniels4
I hope you don't mind me commenting, Mr. Hellums, but as a counselor, based on your story, I would guess she has onein particular, if not two specific disorders that she should really seek some assistance for. It would help her life immensely, and trust me, yours and your wife's too. And the children's situation too. That does NOT mean she is sick or crazy, just a different way of looking at the world, and you can't possibly relate or understand that, or how she does and that can drive you crazy.
On the other hand, just because she does also does not mean you have to put up with her behavior. i would at the least recommend that you set ground rules, behavioral expectations and boundaries, have ramifications in order and if they are violated you follow-through, and most importantly stick to them and by that she will learn new behavioral skills that will be more appropriate at least to you. Even if she does nothing else on her own.
PM me if you'd like. Hang in there. Mark
I would like to apologize to everybody for turning this thread into Steve's and his daughter's problems.
Mark, thank you for the advice. But we have tried everything with her, she don't care what the ramifications are. She will do what she wants and lie about it. One of the first one was " live under my roof you live by my rules", that didn't help she lived out of her car or anybody that would take her in. Telling her to do something is like telling it to a wall. I gave her $ a while back to get her oil changed since I couldn't get her to bring her van out for me to do it, 4 or 5 months later she had to bring it out for me to work on. I looked at the oil filter and it was the same one I had put on it the last time I changed the oil. I asked her if she got the oil changed with the money I gave her, she paused and said she gave the money to her friend to go get it done for her - LIE! I think she is beyond help, she would tell a
counselor what she thought they wanted to hear and just go on as usual.