Guys interesting news! I accidently broke the little tab on the back of the accelarator that makes that button click when you press the throttle down all the way, I have a spare unit so I changed it out (the whole throttle assembly) then I randomly decided to check all the manifold bolts, some of them had a tinyyyy bit of slack so I tightend them, I also bought new stronger clamps and installed them on the couplers that join the start of the manifolds and the y pipe!

I thought hrmm lets see if it made a difference! it sure did, the car shifts from gear to gear so strong and perfect its awsome! now I dont know if it was the extra tightening of the bolts or the stronger clamps on the coupler but whatever it is im really happy at the moment!

Im still going to send the ecu to inmotion but atleast its a relief for the moment!