Well, I took mine apart. The Manual car has two relays. The relay on the right is not used, as there is
nothing plugged into the connector the contains that relay's "low side" coil pin.
The other relay's normally open contact feeds the wire going to the starter/solenoid.
I don't see any way that an "AND" gate exists on this board.
So all of the gating is done in the ECU, at least in the manuals. I'd like to see the PM out of an automatic, and I will when I visit Vickie here soon....