You looked at the wrong list.

Fuses 3 and 5 in the ICM fuse panel (left end of dash, open car's door to access it) are the separate right and left high beam fuses. I hope your fuses or bulbs are both bad, because it sounds like your multi-function switch (the stalk/switch assembly) is the cause - and while not super expensive to buy, replacing it is apparently a bit complicated.