hello everyone, let me say thanks so much for all the help so far.
I pulled the RCM and did a visual inspection, i can't see anything wrong.
the board has 5 relays on it, just curious, what do these do? which one is the traction control relay? is there a diagram somewhere?

I don't understand why the car won't even crank. Is there a starter relay on the RCM? according to info in the service manual it doesn't look like it.