You did not tell us enough. You left out: Did this all start at once? Did you just buy a car that's a basket case? Did you just take it out of storage (where mice have chewed wires)? What is the history here?

Bas/esp TPMS LIGHTS ARE ON.
spoiler light flashes, and doesn’t work.
Top switch stays lit. And beeps when I push it.
All of the above (cept for the TPMS light) give me the idea that the CLP/SSM may be wet and therefore destroyed. That is, the one common element is the CLP/SSM, you could have unrelated issues.

no washer fluid spraying, don’t even here it kicking on.
replaced RCM, didn’t change a thing.
put new washer fluid pump on, still nothing. No damage to washer resovoir.
however when I add fluid to tank, it drains from a large hole next to tank. A wire from the washer resovoir goes up into this factory hole.
See, now I am thinking the BCM has failed, as it plays a part in the operation of wipers/washer as well as top and wing operation. Did you measure voltages to see if the pump is getting power from the BCM? Does not sound like it is.

I don’t see a switch people mention on passenger side windshield frame where top sits.
Look closer. You can only see it with the top partway up. See the thread "Top Sensors": https://www.crossfireforum.org/forum...p-sensors.html for photos.
But with all the other items, I don't think it's that switch, you appear to have system-wide problems here. The BCM is flashing the spoiler button and the top controller is also indicating a problem. A failed "top open" switch would not cause all of that.

activate top windows go down.
That only proves that the BCM and Top module are basically alive, and the latch retainer switch in the windshield frame is OK.

I'd be interested to know the history of the car. Sounds like you bought a car off a lot with a lot of problems, or you stored the car where rodents got into it and did damage. But flooded CLP/SSMs are rather common and can cause a lot of the trouble you have. That washer thing, tho, seems unrelated.