I ruined my life :(
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Re: I ruined my life :(
actually I was yelling at someone about 10 minutes right before I posted this, lol
Originally Posted by apkano
Maxwell.........you make me laugh! Some of the things you say.....I can almost HEAR you yelling at someone! LMFAO.....priceless! 
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Re: I ruined my life :(
Originally Posted by Maxwell
your an idiot DO NOT tell your fiance what you have done, the relationship will never be the same again and she will resent you for a long time! Don't be a moron again!
Live with the pain of treating her like crap. it's much easier that dealing with a pist off woman everyday of your life.... use your big head this time!
And why are you getting married anyways, you obliviously have little respect for your fiance, and your only 20 years old. your looking at a bad outcome here, and lots of money wasted due to divorce, lawyers, babies, letting down your family and hers, the list keeps growing , etc etc...grow up first bro!
Live with the pain of treating her like crap. it's much easier that dealing with a pist off woman everyday of your life.... use your big head this time!
And why are you getting married anyways, you obliviously have little respect for your fiance, and your only 20 years old. your looking at a bad outcome here, and lots of money wasted due to divorce, lawyers, babies, letting down your family and hers, the list keeps growing , etc etc...grow up first bro!
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Re: I ruined my life :(
As amazing as it may seem, it was bound to happen once in his lifetime...... 
I Think Maxwell is actually right on this one!!!!
I Think Maxwell is actually right on this one!!!!
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Re: I ruined my life :(
Originally Posted by 04chryslr
hey guys, I need to vent this somewhere, anywhere someone will listen, I made the biggest mistake of my life about a month ago, My ex called me and said she needed to talk and like an idiot I went over there,well we ended up having sex and I have a fiance, ever since I did this it has been eating away at me, I love my fiance SO much, I don't know why I did what I did, all I know is everytime I look at my fiance I am ashamed, and I cant bring myself to tell her.....to add to it all my ex is 5 days late for her period 
, sorry for the sad story of the life that is nate
, sorry for the sad story of the life that is nateListen to what motivated you in the first place.
Look after unfinished business b-4 moving to the next.
Look within yourself for foregiveness.
I cant get this song out of my head!
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed
Creeping with the girl next door
Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had
Given her an extra key
All this time she was standing there
She never took her eyes off me
How you can grant the woman access to your villa
Trespasser and a witness while you cling to your pillow
You better watch your back before she turn into a killer
Best for you and the situation not to call the beaner
To be a true player you have to know how to play
If she say a night, convince her say a day
Never admit to a word when she say makes a claim
And you tell her baby no way
But she caught me on the counter (It wasn't me)
Saw me bangin' on the sofa (It wasn't me)
I even had her in the shower (It wasn't me)
She even caught me on camera (It wasn't me)
She saw the marks on my shoulder (It wasn't me)
Heard the words that I told her (It wasn't me)
Heard the scream get louder (It wasn't me)
She stayed until it was over
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed
Creeping with the girl next door
Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor
I had tried to keep her
From what she was about to see
Why should she believe me
When I told her it wasn't me
Make sure she knows it's not you and lead her on the right prefix
Whenever you should see her make the giggolo flex
As funny as it be by you, it not that complex
Seeing is believing so you better change your specs
You know she not gonna be worrying bout things from the past
Hardly recollecting and then she'll go to noontime mass
Wait for your answer: go over there
But if she pack a gun you know you better run fast
But she caught me on the counter (It wasn't me)
Saw me bangin' on the sofa (It wasn't me)
I even had her in the shower (It wasn't me)
She even caught me on camera (It wasn't me)
She saw the marks on my shoulder (It wasn't me)
Heard the words that I told her (It wasn't me)
Heard the scream get louder (It wasn't me)
She stayed until it was over
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed
Creeping with the girl next door
Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had
Given her an extra key
All this time she was standing there
She never took her eyes off me
Gonna tell her that I'm sorry
For the pain that I've caused
I've been listening to your reasoning
It makes no sense at all
We should tell her that I'm sorry
For the pain that I've caused
You may think that you're a player
But you're completely lost
That's why I sing
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed
Creeping with the girl next door
Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had
Given her an extra key
All this time she was standing there
She never took her eyes off me
Last edited by jaded1958cars; Jan 16, 2008 at 03:17 PM.
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Re: I ruined my life :(
Do not, I repeat DO NOT tell your fiance' about what happened. Now or EVER!!!!
The only purpose telling her would serve is to clear your own conscience while unnecessarilly burdening hers.
Consider it a lesson learned and as a wake-up call to being faithful once you've tied the knot.
The only purpose telling her would serve is to clear your own conscience while unnecessarilly burdening hers.
Consider it a lesson learned and as a wake-up call to being faithful once you've tied the knot.
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Re: I ruined my life :(
good, now that someone else stuck their neck out and made a post that may not go over well (a post i agree with), i will say what i wanted to say in the first place...
never apologize for getting laid.
never apologize for getting laid.
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Re: I ruined my life :(
If you are not going to be a daddy:
- Do not tell the fiance.
- Never let her stumble upon the Crossfire Forum
If you are going to be a daddy:
- You will have to tell the fiance once you start paying child support and she realizes that the monthly budget just shrunk.
- You will probably need to sell the Crossfire so that you can tote the kid around or use the insurance money to help pay child support.
Are you sure that the ex didn't do this because she was already Preggo and would rather have you as the "father". Sounds like a potential Maury Povich episode. As previously stated, get tested.
Good Luck .... we are all hoping for the best.....keep us posted.
- Do not tell the fiance.
- Never let her stumble upon the Crossfire Forum
If you are going to be a daddy:
- You will have to tell the fiance once you start paying child support and she realizes that the monthly budget just shrunk.
- You will probably need to sell the Crossfire so that you can tote the kid around or use the insurance money to help pay child support.
Are you sure that the ex didn't do this because she was already Preggo and would rather have you as the "father". Sounds like a potential Maury Povich episode. As previously stated, get tested.
Good Luck .... we are all hoping for the best.....keep us posted.
Last edited by imabenz; Jan 16, 2008 at 11:32 AM.
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Re: I ruined my life :(
thanks for the reply's and all the advice guys, I appreciate it, ya I willl definately get tests done, she is not exactly the hardest girl to get with if you know what I mean.
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Re: I ruined my life :(
Originally Posted by 04chryslr
thanks for the reply's and all the advice guys, I appreciate it, ya I willl definately get tests done, she is not exactly the hardest girl to get with if you know what I mean.
just kidding. good luck bro
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Maxwell and midnightman are correct. Don't tell your fiancee. Suck it up and live with your transgression. You may have done yourself a big favor in the long run. Twenty is too young an age to be in the situation you are.
And make sure to keep junior in your pocket. We all know he doesn't have a brain.
And make sure to keep junior in your pocket. We all know he doesn't have a brain.
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All the advice that has been given is good in different ways, but you have to do what is right for you. If you can live with the pain and angst of what you have done, then fine. But I suspect that you may have issues with that idea, if you didn't you would not have posted here. As they say "it is what it is", this was not a mistake evidently feelings were there. Learn from what has happened, you are young take a step back and evaluate the whole situation. If it happened once then it may happen again, really think and decide if you are really ready for marriage and commitment. Finding someone to truly love and one that truly loves you is not an everyday occurrance. As they say we always hurt the one we love, so do what you feel is right. I believe in life everyone deserves one "give me", you just had yours, learn from it we all have secrets that includes your fiance. Let a "sleeping dog" lie, donot wake it up unless you have to. Also something to think about for the future....remember Lorena Bobbit?
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Re: I ruined my life :(
AGREE WITH MAXWELL. THEN, DENY DENY DENY DENY. 
SELF PRESERVATION! GOOD LUCK.
1. A STIFF D_ _ _ HAS NO CONSCIENCE!
2. NEVER LIE, BUT NEVER VOLLUNTEER INFORMATION.
3. YOU HAVE BEEN SET UP. DOUBLE WHAMMY!
4 LEARN BY YOUR MISTAKES.
5.LIFE IS LIKE A GAME OF CHESS. BE AWARE, THINK WHAT YOUR OPPONET MIGHT DO. BACK OFF WHEN NECESSARY ATTACK WHEN ABLE. YOU CAN ALSO SET SOMEONE UP BY LEADING THEM DOWN THE GOLDEN PATH THEN DROPPING THE HAMMER. NOTE #3
SELF PRESERVATION! GOOD LUCK. 1. A STIFF D_ _ _ HAS NO CONSCIENCE!
2. NEVER LIE, BUT NEVER VOLLUNTEER INFORMATION.
3. YOU HAVE BEEN SET UP. DOUBLE WHAMMY!
4 LEARN BY YOUR MISTAKES.
5.LIFE IS LIKE A GAME OF CHESS. BE AWARE, THINK WHAT YOUR OPPONET MIGHT DO. BACK OFF WHEN NECESSARY ATTACK WHEN ABLE. YOU CAN ALSO SET SOMEONE UP BY LEADING THEM DOWN THE GOLDEN PATH THEN DROPPING THE HAMMER. NOTE #3
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Re: I ruined my life :(
Originally Posted by sonoronos
It wasn't me?
Figure out what motivated the action..residual feelings?
Deal with your own guilt, foregive yourself.
He must decide if it's just his nature to live out the genetic pre-programmed biological callings to procreate with as many willing partners as he can thus ensuring that his DNA gets passed on to future generations. If so I'd suggest he moves to Salt Lake City....You know a romantic setting
it wasnt me
You all realize that this post was a ruse by some woman who was thinking of dating one of you.....
I hope you passed.
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Re: I ruined my life :(
Originally Posted by imabenz
If you are not going to be a daddy:
- Do not tell the fiance.
- Never let her stumble upon the Crossfire Forum
- Do not tell the fiance.
- Never let her stumble upon the Crossfire Forum
- If your fiance and your ex-g know each other. Can they not stumble into one another? Having the image of your fiance meeting the ex-g with the "I know what he did last Summer...(with me while with you)" look is a "urghh"
On a side note, having experienced members of crossfire whether be it about crossfire or any auto. and/or about life is always making you one of them no matter in what situation you are. Sense of belonging.
04chryslr, you better don't forget their names.
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I hate to say it (after our differences on politics) but I agree with Maxwell here. You did what you did because you wanted to do it!!!! You are not married at the current moment. If I was 20 all over again I would not rush into anything. What if you do this again after you are married and if I was a betting man I would wager on it. Get married when and if you are ready for the commitment. Just my two cents from the college of hard knocks.