C'mon - forum etiquette states that you should post some pics when asking for advice.

I can't make a determination until I can see what's what; preferably from several different angles.

Good luck with your mods - and as always - enjoy the ride.

 

LOL!

Seriously though, you need to tell her or you run a great chance of having a short marriage. "Enjoy the ride"

 

ROTFLMAO !!

 

Just curious...several questions here:

How long has she been you Ex?
What did she want to talk about ??
Did you actually talk and if so what about ??
I also wonder if indeed she is already pregnant if this was her motive for calling you in the first place to get you over to her place and engage you in sex to then claim you are the daddy. Did she make the move to engage you in the act or was this something you decided without provocation ?


PS...this hasn't "ruined your life" it has just complicated it a great deal for the time.

 

she said she needed me to come over cuz she just needed to talk, when I went over there we just talked about normal everyday stuff, and it was her idea to engage sexually, she has been my ex for a couple years but we still talk.

 

sorry to tell u but looks like set up to me bro

 

damn straight it a friggin trap, I would join the Army if I where you. Don't tell anyone but your parents where you went, get out of town! Let me guess, You forgot your rubber huh? lol

 

Even a blind squirrel finds a nut once.

 

I will give you my advise. If this indiscretion was a mistake that you are truly sorry it happened, and you are sure it will never happen again, DO NOT tell your fiancé. It will only destroy the relationship and trust is not easily regained. There are some things you just take to the grave.

 

They are not recyclable. Use them once and throw them away....

 

I would bet you could tell the age of the member based on the advice given. The "school of hard knocks" group has a lot of experience and good reasons for what they are saying.
Telling fiance is your way of trying to avoid what is the real problem here....you haven't grown up emtionally yet. If you love her why is it that you are so willing to hurt her? It is your problem and now you want to make it her's too?
"Oh baby I love you and I bonked my ex last week. How are our wedding plans going?"
Listen to what your actions have told you. In a round about way you set it up so your fiance will do what you haven't had the ***** to do, call off the wedding. Your ex counted on you playing the role of "chump" why is it that she knows you better than you do?
I seem to be harsh you? You can bet this is how these women are going to treat you in the future. What kind of relationship starts out with cheating? Have some self respect and don't put these women in the position where they can treat you poorly for ever.
Tell the fiance you need to hold off on the wedding, you need to grow up and then marry her. If she's still there then it's all good. If she has moved on then she wasn't really "the one".
We have friends who were married when they were 18, they had a great marrage. I think the chance of this is slim, add to it you can't trust yourself, things don't look very good. Be a man, don't do squat about the ex and her "5 day's late game" wait for her to say something. Meet it with a firm response that there must be testing done before you will coment. Tell your fiance you are not able to marry her now. Pay her family for any expenses they had because of the wedding plans. Get your head together.

 

If you do not tell your finance especially if you are in a small town there is a good chance she will find out anyway. And if the ex is pregnant that is pretty hard to hide so you are going to have to tell her. Still talking to ex's is always a reciepe for disaster. If you truly loved you finance you wouldn't of done it and you wouldn't of gone to your ex's. You are too young, if I were you I would spend some time being single and building a career, saving for a down payment on a house etc.

~Juice

 

Now that I think about it, the French still have the Foreign Legion. Join, disappear and comeback 10 years later a hero. Works every time. They make movies about this stuff. (sorry just had to do it).

If you're real religious you could consider a moastery in the Himalaya's.

(Seriously, after all these comments I am sure you know what you want to do, now do it!)

 

if he was real religious he probably wouldn't have tapped it in the first place.

 

Oh puleeze!!! Priests and Ministers get it all the time - any time, any place, any gender....


If you are getting married and start out your life together with a lie you will probably live to regret it (unless she knows how to shoot, and then you won't).....

If your relationship is strong enough it will survive this, if not - well, you should have kept it in your pants.....

... and a lot of this really depends on whether the ex is preggers or not - if she is, you are so screwed - 18 years of child support is a long-g-g time...


BTW - I want to thank you - I have some real lousy stuff going on in my life right now and am feeling pretty low, but hearing your story, I realize I'm not so bad off after all....

 

If you think your ex is out to get you that bad wouldn't you think she'd make it a point to let your finance know about it?

 

Acxtually this could work to your advantage - have you ever heard of Rodeo sex?

 

Hmmm...full tank of gas in a Crossfire is good for about 300 miles...

Get out a map, and a compass, adjust the compass to 300 miles per the map's scale. Draw a circle with a 300 mile radius centered at present location. Sell/ pawn everything you own which will not fit into a Crossfire.

(you will be traveling light, especially if you own a roadster )

Fill up the tank, pick a direction and START DRIVING !

Not the best solution but that's what to expect asking for personal advise in a Crossfire owner's forum...

Good Luck

Slim

 

Oh man, I dare the kid to try that on his woman, man that would be wild, don't forget to set up a camera before you attempt this move, it's very dangerous....

 

Dude, i HAVE BEEN IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD THAT YOU ARE IN.

#1 YOUR EX WILL ALWAYS BE INTERESTED IN YOU AND THAT IS A TEMPTATION THAT YOU HAVE TO WORK OUT.

#2 HAVE A COUNCILING SESSION WITH A TRAINED INDIVIDUAL. AFTER THAT HAS TRANSPIRED, BRING YOUR FIANCE INTO THE LIGHT TO DO THE FOLLOWING, WITH THE COUNCLER (SPELLING) TO ASSIST THE PROCESS.

A. COME CLEAN, YOU TOLD THE FORUM, AND SECRETS DO COME TO LIGHT, PERIOD.

B. GIVE HER THE CONSIDERATION AS YOUR SOON TO BE EQUAL THAT SHE IS WORTHY AND DESERVES TO BE TREATED WITH CLASS AND HONESTY. THIS WILL BE RECEIVED WELL AFTER THE SURPRISE PASSES.

C. THIS PROCESS WILL INFORM HER AND GIVE YOU THE UNDERSTANDING THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF SLIPPING AND THAT BOTH OF YOU KNOW IT, SHE WILL WATCH OUT FOR YOU AND YOU WILL KNOW THAT YOU M-U-S-T NOT GO THAT WAY AGAIN OR THERE IS NO REASON TO GET INVOLVED IE MARRIED.

IF YOU DONT WANT TO ACCEPT THE LIMIT OF NO MORE RUNNING AROUND WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED OR ENGAGED WHICH IS WORSE THEN DONT MAKE YOURSELF OR HER MISERABLE, JUST BE SINGLE.

BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF, YOU FELT SO ROTTEN AS TO TELL THE WORLD AS MUCH.

PS UNTIL YOU SEE THE KID SHE IS NOT LATE . IF THERE IS A KID OR TWO THEN YOU HAVE CREATED A WHOLE RAFT OF PROBLEMS AND NEED TO GET TO A PROFESSIONAL EVEN MORE QUICKLY.

WOODY